When you’re hurt yourself, you know the story damn well

Beyond any reasonable doubt, everything we read or see is not worth wasting your time, but sometimes one can’t help pondering over such meaningless things. The other day I read this & it kind of bothers me, so I need to do a bit of dissection: 

“Unfaithful! What an absurd word – a concept, not the description of an act. Yet it’s the concept that does the hurting, not the deed itself. Does infidelity as such matter?” 

Fay Weldon 

Somehow I just can’t agree with it. I don’t think it’s the concept that hurts, it’s the deed itself. Anyone who has been stabbed by a loved one would know. Who cares how people describe this act as! Does it even matter when you’re hurt? But I suppose infidelity or even disloyalty of any kind matters. It matters to the person who has been cheated. His/her trust is crumpled for a long time & in some cases, people never trust again. Only a very insensitive person could say that infidelity somehow doesn’t matter as such.

Cheating is not an accident. You don’t suddenly meet a dick or vagina just like that. Maybe while the person is cheating, it doesn’t mean anything to him/her, but it would be a totally different story for his partner. And when you’re hurt, you have no time to find out the difference between the concept or deed. 

And it’s not just about loved ones…even friends & family cheat on you. What I find weird is that they put a huge question mark on the sincerity of very loyal people. Mostly, those people don’t even know you that well but they can’t help judging you. Just because sluttish women have been sleeping with them, they think every woman is like that & they won’t have any problem stealing their friend’s girl too. It’s really a very strange & dirty world. Loyalty & sincerity are rare qualities. And even today everyone cannot be bought.

I’m also amazed to know people who call themselves easy & it’s the opinion of people that matter to them. Even if you are easy & things happen all of a sudden, I don’t think you should label yourself as someone easily available. A guy was unfaithful & the girl is still blaming herself for being the black sheep – that is absurd. At the same I feel sorry for those who regret being nice & kind to others as they have been used & they are still badly hurt.

I too was loyal to the wrong kind of people & I don’t regret that. Why should I? It’s certainly not my loss. I didn’t like what I learnt at that time but it has surely helped me to grow as a person. Moreover, I think it’s what you think about yourself that matters & now what others are saying about you. And I don’t think unfaithful is an absurd word. It’s a word that opens your eyes to reality. It’s a word that helps you to grow. It’s the kind of word that makes your more mature.

Loyalty

A woman’s loyalty is tested when her man has nothing…A man’s loyalty is tested when he has everything.

Now who wouldn’t want to fall in love with such loyal creatures!

I think 2 or 3 days ago, someone shared this very picture of a black Labrador Retriever who didn’t abandon his buddy that was fatally struck by a car. 

Now this incident happened on La Puente street in Los Angeles, California, on Wednesday. It was a very busy & dangerous road but the black Labrador didn’t leave his dead pal & that speaks highly about how loyal animals are & why we love dogs. 

What is strange is that people usually make videos when animals are being hit but they don’t go & help them. Anyhow, Animal control officials responded to the scene when a man informed them about this accident & how another dog refuses to leave the side of his friend. In fact this man even made sure that no one hit the black dog. 

They have named this two year old dog Grace. Since there were no tags on the dogs & no one has come forward to claim Grace, so now they are looking for a home for her. 

DACC said in a statement: “(Grace was) laying in the street next to another dog, which was motionless and had suffered obvious head trauma,” according the San Gabriel Valley Tribune. 

“When I saw the video clip taken from a passerby's cellphone, it made me emotional,” the shelter's director Marcia Mayeda said. 

This is not the first time that an animal has refused to abandon his injured or dead partner/buddy. In fact I once saw the clip in which a cat was trying hard that his dead partner must wake up. It was very touching. And I have seen a number of pictures/videos in which dogs don’t leave their injured or dead friends alone. In fact they even sit besides the graves of their owners. 

I won’t say that humans should learn something from dogs, cause they can die a million times, but they can never be as loyal as dogs. In fact, they know how to leave a person in bad days or stab him in the back in good days. What really matters to humans is how fake they are & how much materialism mean to them in order to survive in today’s selfish world. Loyalty, sincerity, love, affection are things that are thrown in the dustbin just like that. In fact, these are meaningless words, because they just know how to take another person for granted.

Anyhow, Grace is being housed at the Baldwin Park Animal Care Center, 4275 Elton Street. 

Her impound number is A4416170, and she is available to visit with potential adopters through the weekend. 

For more information, contact the Baldwin Park Animal Care Center at 626-962-3577. 

Source: 

 Loyal Labrador stays by companion's side after La Puente car accident

Forgiving is not that easy

I do enjoy reading Paulo Coelho but Aleph has disappointed me a great deal. Anyhow, people have liked it. I just couldn’t. 

Since I have been talking about walking on the road all alone & forgiveness & all that, I came across a line that I just can’t help posting:

Only someone who can say “I love you” is capable of saying “I forgive you.” 

Well I think this varies from person to person. Some people are really forgiving & they forgive you for committing such big crimes but some can never forgive you even when you have apologized for being rude. In most of the cases, the culprits never say sorry. They neither feel remorse nor guilt for hurting& harming the person. Forgiving a really evil person is not an easy thing when you know that he/she is capable of harming you again. Maybe that’s why sometimes it becomes a little difficult to forgive that creature. You know what I mean :P 

Anyhow I do not agree with this line that anyone who can say I love you is capable of saying I forgive you. I have never said I love you to anyone, except my pets. I haven’t even said I love you to my parents. There was no need. I’m sure they know it.

But beyond any reasonable doubt, I think when we forgive anyone, we do get healed completely. I thought forgiving yourself was the step that could heal you, but it hasn’t. I suppose everything takes time. 

I also read: “What hurts us is what heals us.” 

 It’s almost the same thing. However, it doesn’t apply to me…so it seems. Yeah but if the person who has hurt you is truly sorry for what he/she has done, then maybe one won’t have any problem in forgiving the person for creating hurdles. I think it requires lots & lots of courage to forgive someone. It also requires courage to say sorry to someone when you know you won’t be treated justly. 

Certain people are not important. When they harm you or give you negative vibes & create troubles for you, you do forget about them with the passage of time, cause they are not important. You ignore them even while they are making noise & trying hard to get your attention for obvious reason. We actually don’t give a damn to their definition of self-importance & we know a person having undeveloped mind cannot grasp it. They are just not important, but some people are important & that’s the problem. 

Moreover, trust is indeed a very fragile thing. Once it’s broken, nothing can be done about it. The worst part is you’re not willing to trust others who haven’t harmed you in any way. I don’t think much of people who take loyalty for granted. Loyalty is not a thing that can be bought. And those who are willing to fight your idiotic battles for you in the name of loyalty don’t deserve crappy attitude & betrayal.

Even though we know damn well that forgiving helps us eventually cause it gives us the chance to move on. In spite of that, this is one difficult thing. And the biggest problem I’ve faced is that I don’t forget anything mean ever said to me…I don’t believe in revenge & I don’t believe in carrying grudges, but forgiveness is one thing that isn’t easy. And Mahatma Gandhi was damn right:

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” 

Now I don’t like the fact that I’m not strong :P but nevertheless at the moment, I can’t do anything, but I hope I’d be able to move on. I don’t want to think about stuff that wasn’t very nice for the rest of my life. And I hope that all those who are facing this problem also move on. It’s the heaviest thing to carry & one doesn’t want to…at least I don’t want to.