Stop killing babies in the name of honor

It actually boils my blood whenever I read stories in which newborn babies are killed by their own parents or left to die in gutters or garbage sites. These people are more concerned about their so-called honor. Babies that are born out of wedlock are very conveniently killed or discarded by their own parents or relatives, cause they don’t want to bring shame upon themselves.

I really am clueless as to what do they mean by honor & shame. A person who has no problem in murdering an innocent infant shouldn’t talk about shame & honor in the first place. It’s just okay to kill the newborn baby & that doesn’t even make them feel guilty. There is no shame in murdering an innocent baby. They are more concerned about what people will say. They shed tears in cases when judgment is passed & they are punished but in many instances, they get away with it.

I also have problem with the word ‘illegitimate’ which is used for such babies. If there is anyone illegitimate in such cases, it’s the biological mother & father. They should be called illegitimate parents. And it’s the narrow way of looking at such children, which is illegitimate. Abusing & calling these children names is illegitimate. It’s the kind of thinking that closed minds have regarding these children, which is illegitimate & impure. A newborn baby can never be impure or illegitimate & no where it is written in the Holy Quran to kill such infants. 

Fatima Ali is another woman who had an affair with a nameless man. It was okay to fuck around but the man didn’t want the baby & Fatima was more concerned about the shame than shouldering the responsibility of the baby. I’m not being judgmental but none of them was raped. You can’t say the baby was an accident. Moreover, there is an option of abortion, which for some unknown reason such guilty people never opt for, cause murdering the child seems to be a more fun thing or something. I’m sure the woman must have been hurt after being used & discarded by a man but she wasn’t a kid. She must have known that she could get pregnant. 

Fatima gave birth to the baby in her bedroom & she cut the umbilical cord & left her to die, cause she didn’t want to bring shame upon her devout Muslim family. 

Anyway, she has been given a 26-week prison sentence, & is also suspended for two years, and subjected to a twelve month supervision order. You left a baby to die, & you land in prison just for 26 weeks. I think this is not fair. Moreover, they should also punish the nameless, illegitimate father who is seen nowhere. 

Judge John Appleby said, “You failed to seek medical assistance following the birth of your daughter. The tragedy that followed is at the immense disaster for this child. She died within two hours of her birth, and, had you acted appropriately, her life could have been saved. There’s no evidence that you ill-treated or assaulted the child and it’s still a mystery perhaps as to the course of action you took following her birth. This is a tragedy and the result of your actions will be with you for the rest of your life.” 

Oh the nameless, illegitimate dad actually has a name. In fact Fatima’s family didn’t approve of her relationship with Kazi Mohammed Dilwar Hussein & when she got pregnant, he gave her money to have an abortion in Birmingham in 2009. Giving the money to have an abortion doesn’t make him less guilty. He was equally responsible. It’s obvious that he gave this woman a ditch once she was pregnant. On the other hand, she behaved as a thorough retard. She could have asked for medical assistance without involving her family, but she didn’t do anything of the sort. 

I have read cases in which women/girls kill the babies & even bury them. We even mentioned one such incident in our book ‘If mortals had been immortals.’ The girl gave birth to the baby in the bathroom & then she tried to flush the baby in the commode. 

I know many people out there would judge me for writing this blog post, cause I seem way too insensitive, cause I’m on the side of those babies who deserved to live but were killed by their own illegitimate parents. It is okay to satisfy carnal desires & to know the pleasure of the flesh. They don’t think about honor at that time, but when the baby is conceived, they all start thinking about honor. The illegitimate dad manages to vanish in thin air cause men don’t get pregnant & it’s easy for them to fuck off at that point but the illegitimate mother doesn’t have the option to disappear anywhere. I’ve heard stories about the love of mother & that nothing could stand in the way of motherhood. Where is the love of mother for her baby in such instances? Both men & women are equally responsible. 

Every child that is born deserves to enjoy life. He has the right to know life & I don’t think anyone (which includes of course biological parents) has the right to deprive them of life, which is a gift of God. Fine. If you can’t keep the baby, there are other options. Some childless couple may adopt him & give him a better life. Why kill him? Certain questions would always bother me. I don’t know why selfish people have children & those who would protect them like anything never become parents. 

PS Please forgive me for using the word fuck a number of times in this write-up. I just couldn’t help it, cause I’m really pissed off at the way infants are treated. 

Source: Muslim woman let 'secret' baby die then dumped her body for fear of dishonouring her family

The worth of life

The other day my friend shared a picture of an infant thrown in a trash can. I have written on such topics & we all know there is just no way of stopping just cruel people from throwing babies in garbage sites where strays harm them & in many cases, these people have even thrown acid on the babies.

A baby just doesn’t arrive in this world all by itself, but that has never been that important. People who use words such illegitimate & impure for beings, I just have one thing to say about them: it’s their narrow way of thinking which is illegitimate & impure. I think questions such as how could humans be so cruel & inhuman are useless, cause these people will not change & I don’t think they have any regret for treating life as dirt.

Well it’s a known fact that babies are deserted everywhere in the world. Although there are places where you could leave infants, in spite of that, they are being killed & thrown in the trash. I think both men & women, & the society itself are responsible for this brutality committed in the name of keeping their so-called honour. In some cases, these kids are illegitimate & in some cases, they don’t want baby girls, so they discard them.

I admire Edhi & his wife for providing shelter for such babies. Even though clerics have issues with what they are doing for these kids, they continue to help out. However, I don’t like how Mrs. Sattar Edhi doesn’t let mothers see their babies once they are delivered. She tells them they are dead. If a woman comes over to Edhi centre, at least she doesn’t want to kill the baby & she wants him to have a better future, but Mrs. Edhi doesn’t ever show them the face of the baby & yet she didn’t have any problem admitting this on TV. As if those mothers were not watching her interview! It’s like she’s judging all those women. Or does she really care that a mother would not forget the child?

It’s not necessary that a woman has to have an illicit relationship with a man to produce the baby. She could have been raped as well. She could have been sexually abused by a family member. And even if she slept with a guy out of wedlock, who the hell is Mrs. Sattar to judge her!!! Killing babies in broad day is a norm in sick societies. We need to morally support those women…at least they take some step to protect the child.

A friend of mine was saying that Mrs. Sattar is not educated; maybe she meant something else & she said it crudely. Well I don’t know about that. I saw her being extremely excited when singer Hadiqa adopted a child. There is no guarantee either that a celebrity will make an awesome parent. Anyhow, what Edhi & his wife are doing is commendable. People in this country do not even have time to talk about such babies.

The incident that I have never been able to forget is how a baby was left on the stairs of a mosque & on the order of Imam sahab, he was stoned to death. It happened in Karachi few years ago. Who was the 1st one to cast the stone & who was the 2nd one – that is not important. The infant was innocent as compared to all those judgmental monsters who went to mosque to pray that particular day & then murdered an innocent child. Not a single religion preaches to kill a child.

The other case that also bothers me to this day is about a young girl who was sexually abused by her own father for years & her mother kept mum all the while. When she got pregnant, her father & mother decided that the baby ought to be destroyed. She was not in favor of abortion & yet she was forced to. She wanted the baby & she was not allowed that option. Do you think it’s fair? I don’t.

How can you possibly judge such mothers? That’s my question. I don’t think every woman wants to get rid of the baby. Yeah, most of them don’t have the courage to face this society. I admit that some women don’t give a damn; they just want to get rid of the child. We’ve read too many horrifying stories in which mothers have murdered or abandoned their legitimate kids.

When I was young, I used to wonder how could anyone harm a part of herself & baby is actually a part of you but now I don’t. Women have given ample evidence that they can stoop down to any level. Sometimes they even leave behind men. But the society as a whole is responsible for babies being killed. We are intolerant & incapable of granting justice. A baby has the right to live but that right is snatched by others every day. It may be just another day for you, but every day an innocent child is robbed of his basic right to breathe.

In the movie Kya Kehna, Preity Zinta very rightly said that they wanted her to kill the child as if there was no difference between a rotten or cracked tooth with cavity & her child.

I'm sorry to say but we are a part of a society where the worth of life is even less than a cracked tooth. We are so bogged down in ignorance & error.