“In the scheme of things utterly bad from the start the only unpardonable folly is that of hope.”
Virginia Woolf
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Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Happiness & unhappiness in a balance
Last night while I was reading, I came across these lines & I just couldn’t agree with Paulo Coelho on it:
“It’s enough that I keep trying. Even those who didn’t do all they could have done already have been forgiven: they had their punishment while they were alive by being unhappy when they could have been living in peace & harmony.”
I just couldn’t help thinking about people who have been wronged by others & I don’t blame them for being unhappy. Some people have been sick & they can’t be happy. Some have been molested in childhood. Some have been sexually assaulted & raped. Some have lost everything. Some have lost trust, cause they have been stabbed in the back by their own loved ones & friends. People suffer in different ways all over the world. They may have lost peace of mind & everything. I just can’t believe all of them have been punished for not taking decision at the right time. Where was the option of taking a step when you are being wronged by some monster?
I know lots of mean & selfish folks who are leading very happy lives or so it seems but they surely don’t give two fucks while hurting anyone. They are quite happy as they are surrounded by trashy, shitty, clueless, low-life fuckers known as sycophants in simple terms. And that makes for one happy childhood tale that no one ever bothered to read it out to us. Maybe nothing is what it seems, but this is what I have observed. I could be wrong but I don’t give a damn to it anymore. There are also certain characters whose main aim in life is to create hurdles for other beings & they have been victorious all along. Misfortune of others seem to make them happy.
Moreover I also happen to know some very good humans who have seen a lot of shit in life & if they don’t have peace & harmony, I don’t think it’s any sort of punishment. Maybe they are tested by God. How could any human pass judgement on people who are not that happy? Maybe they’ve had traumatic experiences that you can’t even comprehend. Since it’s kind of impossible to taste every calamity in life, how can anyone dare to judge?
Any illness can make a person unhappy. I’ve got chronic depression & when my illness is being triggered, I only see gloom & doom. Even though I usually enjoy life but things alter when I’m ill. Is my illness some sort of punishment, cause I don’t have peace & harmony while it lasts? Yesterday I mentioned that I’ve seen the marriages of my 4 lousy crushes. Was it a punishment? My last crush gives me stupid hints whenever he can even though it means nothing to him. Is this some sort of punishment that he hurts me more than the 4 losers who didn’t give me any importance whatsoever? I have friends who have been sexually abused in childhood & some have been sexually harassed & sexually abused later on, they are still unhappy. Is that a punishment too? These are known as bad experiences. In other words, we may refer to them as horrifying happenings that have altered lives forever & that has robbed them of peace of mind & harmony.
Men in my country throw acid on women whenever they have some issue. These women suffer for a lifetime. I’m sure they cannot think of peace & harmony. Can you call this punishment? There are people who don’t have clothes to wear. There are people who have got nothing to eat. There are infants who are thrown in garbage sites as no one wants to shoulder the responsibility of owning them. There are people who’ve got problems owing to the people surrounding them. There are people who have been stabbed in the back by their spouses, boyfriends/girlfriends, friends, family & to this day, they can’t trust again. They don’t even take another chance even if they happen to meet the right kind of people, cause they are badly hurt. And what is the fault of the person who just meets them when they have lost trust & aren’t willing to give life a second chance. Can you even say that people deserve what they get in this world? And these are just few examples.
And lastly I would like to thank Siddhārtha Gautama Buddha for teaching us:
“Believe nothing because a wise person said it. Believe nothing because it is generally held. Believe nothing because it is written. Believe nothing because it is said to be Divine. Believe nothing because someone else believes it. But believe only what you yourself judge to be true.”
I know I could be wrong about a number of things. And I certainly do not mean to offend anyone. But this is how I see things right now.
“It’s enough that I keep trying. Even those who didn’t do all they could have done already have been forgiven: they had their punishment while they were alive by being unhappy when they could have been living in peace & harmony.”
I just couldn’t help thinking about people who have been wronged by others & I don’t blame them for being unhappy. Some people have been sick & they can’t be happy. Some have been molested in childhood. Some have been sexually assaulted & raped. Some have lost everything. Some have lost trust, cause they have been stabbed in the back by their own loved ones & friends. People suffer in different ways all over the world. They may have lost peace of mind & everything. I just can’t believe all of them have been punished for not taking decision at the right time. Where was the option of taking a step when you are being wronged by some monster?
I know lots of mean & selfish folks who are leading very happy lives or so it seems but they surely don’t give two fucks while hurting anyone. They are quite happy as they are surrounded by trashy, shitty, clueless, low-life fuckers known as sycophants in simple terms. And that makes for one happy childhood tale that no one ever bothered to read it out to us. Maybe nothing is what it seems, but this is what I have observed. I could be wrong but I don’t give a damn to it anymore. There are also certain characters whose main aim in life is to create hurdles for other beings & they have been victorious all along. Misfortune of others seem to make them happy.
Moreover I also happen to know some very good humans who have seen a lot of shit in life & if they don’t have peace & harmony, I don’t think it’s any sort of punishment. Maybe they are tested by God. How could any human pass judgement on people who are not that happy? Maybe they’ve had traumatic experiences that you can’t even comprehend. Since it’s kind of impossible to taste every calamity in life, how can anyone dare to judge?
Any illness can make a person unhappy. I’ve got chronic depression & when my illness is being triggered, I only see gloom & doom. Even though I usually enjoy life but things alter when I’m ill. Is my illness some sort of punishment, cause I don’t have peace & harmony while it lasts? Yesterday I mentioned that I’ve seen the marriages of my 4 lousy crushes. Was it a punishment? My last crush gives me stupid hints whenever he can even though it means nothing to him. Is this some sort of punishment that he hurts me more than the 4 losers who didn’t give me any importance whatsoever? I have friends who have been sexually abused in childhood & some have been sexually harassed & sexually abused later on, they are still unhappy. Is that a punishment too? These are known as bad experiences. In other words, we may refer to them as horrifying happenings that have altered lives forever & that has robbed them of peace of mind & harmony.
Men in my country throw acid on women whenever they have some issue. These women suffer for a lifetime. I’m sure they cannot think of peace & harmony. Can you call this punishment? There are people who don’t have clothes to wear. There are people who have got nothing to eat. There are infants who are thrown in garbage sites as no one wants to shoulder the responsibility of owning them. There are people who’ve got problems owing to the people surrounding them. There are people who have been stabbed in the back by their spouses, boyfriends/girlfriends, friends, family & to this day, they can’t trust again. They don’t even take another chance even if they happen to meet the right kind of people, cause they are badly hurt. And what is the fault of the person who just meets them when they have lost trust & aren’t willing to give life a second chance. Can you even say that people deserve what they get in this world? And these are just few examples.
And lastly I would like to thank Siddhārtha Gautama Buddha for teaching us:
“Believe nothing because a wise person said it. Believe nothing because it is generally held. Believe nothing because it is written. Believe nothing because it is said to be Divine. Believe nothing because someone else believes it. But believe only what you yourself judge to be true.”
I know I could be wrong about a number of things. And I certainly do not mean to offend anyone. But this is how I see things right now.
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Silence may not cause a memory to fade
It’s a very, very interesting study. You must take out the time & go through the original source.
"There's this idea, with silence, that if we don't talk about something, it starts fading," says Charles B. Stone, an author of a new paper published in Perspectives on Psychological Science.
Although this perspective has been widely accepted, researchers question this view saying that the belief is not supported by empirical psychological research - a lot of it comes from a Freudian belief that everyone has deep-seated issues that are repressed and need to be talked about.
The real relationship between silence and memory is much more complicated, Stone said.
"We are trying to understand how people remember the past in a very basic way," he said. "Silence is everywhere."
One well-studied example used by Stone and his colleagues to demonstrate how subtle the effects of silence can be, establishes that silences about the past occurring within a conversation do not uniformly promote forgetting.
In summary, the relationship between silence and memory is complex.
"Silence has important implications for how we remember the past beyond just forgetting," Stone said. "In terms of memory, not all silence is equal."
My personal experience is that when we talk about a traumatic incident or any other bad happening, it helps us to heal. It may take time, but eventually you get over it. You don't actually forget it but you don't get those headaches that might explode your brain. Talking always helps. Staying mum can hardly ever help, if you want to forget a bad memory or some tragic incident of your life. But a time comes in life, when we stop talking about unpleasant happenings…not because we want to forget, but it seems such a burden to narrate a shitty story. It happens with me. I don’t even talk about a thing that makes me happy with my best people now. Anyway, I have been very expressive all my life, so if I’m being troubled by any specific event, I can still talk about it.
But suffering all alone in silence is the worst thing you do to yourself. You can go to a shrink if you don’t want to trust people around you. But talk…get that thing which is bothering you out of your system, you are sure to feel better.
See I even scribble all those crappy stories that have nothing to do with my life but I write about them, cause they somehow bother me. I keep thinking about them & I just don’t like it, so I vomit all the trash on my sister’s blog :P
Source:
Silence may not cause a memory to fade
"There's this idea, with silence, that if we don't talk about something, it starts fading," says Charles B. Stone, an author of a new paper published in Perspectives on Psychological Science.
Although this perspective has been widely accepted, researchers question this view saying that the belief is not supported by empirical psychological research - a lot of it comes from a Freudian belief that everyone has deep-seated issues that are repressed and need to be talked about.
The real relationship between silence and memory is much more complicated, Stone said.
"We are trying to understand how people remember the past in a very basic way," he said. "Silence is everywhere."
One well-studied example used by Stone and his colleagues to demonstrate how subtle the effects of silence can be, establishes that silences about the past occurring within a conversation do not uniformly promote forgetting.
In summary, the relationship between silence and memory is complex.
"Silence has important implications for how we remember the past beyond just forgetting," Stone said. "In terms of memory, not all silence is equal."
My personal experience is that when we talk about a traumatic incident or any other bad happening, it helps us to heal. It may take time, but eventually you get over it. You don't actually forget it but you don't get those headaches that might explode your brain. Talking always helps. Staying mum can hardly ever help, if you want to forget a bad memory or some tragic incident of your life. But a time comes in life, when we stop talking about unpleasant happenings…not because we want to forget, but it seems such a burden to narrate a shitty story. It happens with me. I don’t even talk about a thing that makes me happy with my best people now. Anyway, I have been very expressive all my life, so if I’m being troubled by any specific event, I can still talk about it.
But suffering all alone in silence is the worst thing you do to yourself. You can go to a shrink if you don’t want to trust people around you. But talk…get that thing which is bothering you out of your system, you are sure to feel better.
See I even scribble all those crappy stories that have nothing to do with my life but I write about them, cause they somehow bother me. I keep thinking about them & I just don’t like it, so I vomit all the trash on my sister’s blog :P
Source:
Silence may not cause a memory to fade
Thursday, January 12, 2012
A Good person
“I think a good person can do bad things. Because God forgives & I can’t do any less.”
Jodi Picoult
Jodi Picoult
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
The oldest story
This is perhaps the oldest story of the world. Whenever I look at these 2 pictures, I seem to mock at the very tragedy. I actually see myself as that young & stupid girl. Honestly, I never expected my humor to be so sickening but one deteriorates with time. I still believe in relationships, love, & marriage but yes something has gone rotten. Otherwise I would have been the last one to jeer at such a thing. D. H. Lawrence very rightly said:
“Everything has its hour of ridicule – everything.”
And I just can’t believe I’m the one who’s making fun of such a beautiful emotion or maybe it’s the very act of insulting the feeling that makes me laugh at the whole scenario.
But somehow these 2 pictures also provide one an opportunity to look at certain things from another angle. Perhaps when you reach at the stage where you can laugh at yourself, you can surely go beyond. D. H. Lawrence has been one of my mentors & now I begin to understand certain things that I did take for granted years ago. He was right about many things that I couldn’t understand in depth at that time. For instance, not doing it, but knowing about it is regarded as dirty understanding or sin, which is no doubt hypocritical approach. Then there is a limit to everything. There is a limit to love. And it all ends in materialism; there can’t be any reasonable doubt about that. You know actually everything is connected.
Well I made one blunder though. I didn’t ask myself the question: what’s the worst that could happen? I realize now that it’s better to face your fear. You must find out its limit. Since there’s a limit to everything, there ought to be a limit to fear as well.
There’s no way you can change your nature, at least not overnight, but that too could change. Sometimes it only takes a moment & sometimes it takes years. Everything you ever believed in goes in the fucking gutters just like that. What are you left with? You change. Your nature also changes. I have seen countless changes in myself over the years.
“But you can’t change your nature & mode of consciousness like changing your shoes. It is a gradual shedding. Years must go by, & centuries must elapse before you have finished.”
D. H. Lawrence
Some of us only need 2 decades to understand the comedy of it all. 11 years ago when I had my near death experience, it dawned on me that I had never lived actually. I was just looking at life from a distance. Even later on, the situation didn’t change much. But the soul, which is a dark, vast forest with wild life in it comes to the rescue finally. Everything I guess happens at an appointed time.
However, my soul has been slightly rotten right from the beginning. Anyway, I’ve always liked the tagline: ‘darr kay agay jeet hai!’ Never thought I would ever have the courage to face my fear but now I’m all set to take this cruise. Bad experiences are not bad, after all. If I could get over my fear, I’ve got to thank all the bad happenings.
“Everything has its hour of ridicule – everything.”
And I just can’t believe I’m the one who’s making fun of such a beautiful emotion or maybe it’s the very act of insulting the feeling that makes me laugh at the whole scenario.
But somehow these 2 pictures also provide one an opportunity to look at certain things from another angle. Perhaps when you reach at the stage where you can laugh at yourself, you can surely go beyond. D. H. Lawrence has been one of my mentors & now I begin to understand certain things that I did take for granted years ago. He was right about many things that I couldn’t understand in depth at that time. For instance, not doing it, but knowing about it is regarded as dirty understanding or sin, which is no doubt hypocritical approach. Then there is a limit to everything. There is a limit to love. And it all ends in materialism; there can’t be any reasonable doubt about that. You know actually everything is connected.
Well I made one blunder though. I didn’t ask myself the question: what’s the worst that could happen? I realize now that it’s better to face your fear. You must find out its limit. Since there’s a limit to everything, there ought to be a limit to fear as well.
There’s no way you can change your nature, at least not overnight, but that too could change. Sometimes it only takes a moment & sometimes it takes years. Everything you ever believed in goes in the fucking gutters just like that. What are you left with? You change. Your nature also changes. I have seen countless changes in myself over the years.
“But you can’t change your nature & mode of consciousness like changing your shoes. It is a gradual shedding. Years must go by, & centuries must elapse before you have finished.”
D. H. Lawrence
Some of us only need 2 decades to understand the comedy of it all. 11 years ago when I had my near death experience, it dawned on me that I had never lived actually. I was just looking at life from a distance. Even later on, the situation didn’t change much. But the soul, which is a dark, vast forest with wild life in it comes to the rescue finally. Everything I guess happens at an appointed time.
However, my soul has been slightly rotten right from the beginning. Anyway, I’ve always liked the tagline: ‘darr kay agay jeet hai!’ Never thought I would ever have the courage to face my fear but now I’m all set to take this cruise. Bad experiences are not bad, after all. If I could get over my fear, I’ve got to thank all the bad happenings.
Friday, December 16, 2011
A single bad act
“A single bad act no more constitutes a villain in life than a single bad part on the stage.”
Henry Fielding
Henry Fielding
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Simply Life
Some people were born to face life alone, and this is neither good nor bad, it is simply life.
~ Paulo Coelho
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Some people were born to face life alone
Some people were born to face life alone, & this is neither good nor bad, it is simply life.
Paulo Coelho
Friday, February 18, 2011
The Good Things
You have to do stuff that average people don't understand because those are the only good things.
- Andy Warhol
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Saturday, January 29, 2011
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