I do enjoy reading Paulo Coelho but Aleph has disappointed me a great deal. Anyhow, people have liked it. I just couldn’t.
Since I have been talking about walking on the road all alone & forgiveness & all that, I came across a line that I just can’t help posting:
Only someone who can say “I love you” is capable of saying “I forgive you.”
Well I think this varies from person to person. Some people are really forgiving & they forgive you for committing such big crimes but some can never forgive you even when you have apologized for being rude. In most of the cases, the culprits never say sorry. They neither feel remorse nor guilt for hurting& harming the person. Forgiving a really evil person is not an easy thing when you know that he/she is capable of harming you again. Maybe that’s why sometimes it becomes a little difficult to forgive that creature. You know what I mean :P
Anyhow I do not agree with this line that anyone who can say I love you is capable of saying I forgive you. I have never said I love you to anyone, except my pets. I haven’t even said I love you to my parents. There was no need. I’m sure they know it.
But beyond any reasonable doubt, I think when we forgive anyone, we do get healed completely. I thought forgiving yourself was the step that could heal you, but it hasn’t. I suppose everything takes time.
I also read: “What hurts us is what heals us.”
It’s almost the same thing. However, it doesn’t apply to me…so it seems. Yeah but if the person who has hurt you is truly sorry for what he/she has done, then maybe one won’t have any problem in forgiving the person for creating hurdles. I think it requires lots & lots of courage to forgive someone. It also requires courage to say sorry to someone when you know you won’t be treated justly.
Certain people are not important. When they harm you or give you negative vibes & create troubles for you, you do forget about them with the passage of time, cause they are not important. You ignore them even while they are making noise & trying hard to get your attention for obvious reason. We actually don’t give a damn to their definition of self-importance & we know a person having undeveloped mind cannot grasp it. They are just not important, but some people are important & that’s the problem.
Moreover, trust is indeed a very fragile thing. Once it’s broken, nothing can be done about it. The worst part is you’re not willing to trust others who haven’t harmed you in any way. I don’t think much of people who take loyalty for granted. Loyalty is not a thing that can be bought. And those who are willing to fight your idiotic battles for you in the name of loyalty don’t deserve crappy attitude & betrayal.
Even though we know damn well that forgiving helps us eventually cause it gives us the chance to move on. In spite of that, this is one difficult thing. And the biggest problem I’ve faced is that I don’t forget anything mean ever said to me…I don’t believe in revenge & I don’t believe in carrying grudges, but forgiveness is one thing that isn’t easy. And Mahatma Gandhi was damn right:
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Now I don’t like the fact that I’m not strong :P but nevertheless at the moment, I can’t do anything, but I hope I’d be able to move on. I don’t want to think about stuff that wasn’t very nice for the rest of my life. And I hope that all those who are facing this problem also move on. It’s the heaviest thing to carry & one doesn’t want to…at least I don’t want to.
