Kasi and Mtani

Kasi & Mtani are two best friends who are celebrating one year of their friendship. What makes this friendship unique is the fact that one is cheetah & another is Labrador retriever. 

Last March, they found a three week old male cheetah who needed round the clock care. When cheetahs are young, they tend to make strong bond with their siblings & that gave the animal park to search for a lifelong companion for the baby cheetah. They found a six week old Labrador retriever at the shelter who had all the traits they needed in a good pal for the little cheetah. 

They named the cheetah Kasi, which means “one with speed,” and they called the puppy Mtani, meaning “close friend.” In the beginning, they used to keep an eye on them. 

We wish Kasi & Mtani to celebrate many such birthdays of their friendship. It’s really hard to find a good, sincere pal. They are both very lucky to have each other. And they also look very cute. 

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Cheetah And Dog Celebrate Anniversary 

Kasi And Mtani, Baby Cheetah And Puppy, Celebrate One-Year Friendship (PHOTOS, VIDEO)

It doesn’t seem like yesterday anymore

Can’t believe today is the 20th death anniversary of Papa. Of course it doesn’t seem like yesterday…after all, 20 years is a pretty long time. 

Even on my blog, I’ve covered a couple of stories about wicked parents & every time I read such horrifying tales, I feel bad that my father is dead, who was not only a good father but also a great human. His death is certainly a huge loss. We need such courageous people in this country but unfortunately we just have living corpses. 

Anyhow, what I liked best about Papa was how he cared about his mom & he was never scared to take a stand against anyone. And yes unlike me, he had a genuine grin :P He was also full of life. I don’t know anyone in my family who’s anything like him. 

Well I won’t say he was the bestest father, cause I really do not believe in this bestest crap. He was my father & there was something about him. I’d say he was a cool dude. He was knowledgeable & he knew different languages. His collection is pretty cool, but I don’t think I’d ever be able to read all those books. 

Please don’t get me wrong but I do find it hilarious when someone says that he/she could sense dead people. In fact they just not feel the existence of the dead person being around, but they could even talk to him. I really don’t know the details…have read such status updates. However, I’m a psychic but I have never experienced anything of the sort. There are other beings for sure, but dead people don’t bother anyone & they can’t chat either. I think if dead people could talk, they might have been adding us on msn & skype just like irritating folks we don’t want to chat with. Yes unlike me, my Nani was damn good at her ability but even she didn’t talk to dead people. Of course I see them in my dreams sometimes & when I’m really down, I see my cat Princey. But that’s it. Dead folks can only talk to you in dreams & that too happens when they want to forewarn you about something. And if you are lucky, they might send you gifts. That’s about it.

I was supposed to talk about my dad & as usual I’m bitching :P My father believed in having fun. It was a good life & I’m sure he must be driving Mr. Satan nuts with his arguments. He even studied law but I don’t know why he didn’t practice it. Speaking of which reminds me of some closed minds who presume that civil servants take bribe like anything. Can’t do anything to open their eyes, but people also happen to come from good families & they don’t have to run after money. So far as bribe is concerned, that is given & taken in every profession…the package happens to be a little different. Yeah government servants take bribe, but some government servants even have the guts to file a case against the government & my father was one such person who could stand against corrupt decisions imposed on him by the government. I find that quality very admirable. He won the case in 87 & he was very happy. 

I know very few things about my father, cause I was just a teenager when he passed away. But it’s cute to know that I was just three days old when I started talking to him & even Z called him Maa. You know I happen to repeat this stuff & I can’t help that, cause I have very few memories.

I do find all those people very lucky whose parents die at the age 80 or so. And yeah I’m amazed at assholes & bitches who find parents something of a burden. Arguments with my mom are much fun & I think if Papa had been alive, I might have argued with him also. More importantly, I would have at least one person to talk about literature.

In the scheme of things utterly bad

“In the scheme of things utterly bad from the start the only unpardonable folly is that of hope.” 

Virginia Woolf

How little remains of the man I once was

“How little remains of the man I once was, save the memory of him! But remembering is only a new form of suffering.” 

Charles Baudelaire

It’s a matter of love

“I think it is a matter of love: the more you love a memory, the stronger and stranger it is.” 

Vladimir Nabokov

True story or not

I haven’t been pondering over this statement as such, but I don’t think every friend is like that. Some friends & family members are always willing to compromise for the sake of loved ones. They really go out of their way when they don’t have to. However, these days the problem is that everything ends in materialism. Relationships are possible if you benefit each other. Naturally that doesn’t leave much room for those who are still old-fashioned or take relationships too seriously. 

Ex or some lousy shit or illegal/fun/whatever activity from the past are bound to create mess. And I guess they have been creating mess ever since time immemorial. It’s nothing new. 

However, there are friends, well-wishers & even family members who just don’t want you to settle down. In fact, many a times, they even try that nothing ever happens between the other person & you. I was friends with such people. Anyhow, you get to know the real color sooner or later. However, I was amazed when actor Milind said that he too has some friends & they don’t like any of his girlfriend. The good thing is…he’s married now. 

I’m not an expert on relationship, but I think trust in every relationship plays a vital role. There are times when we become friends with old friends again, but it’s not like old times for obvious reason. The point is…whether an ex or some lousy shit from the past or a friend or family…whoever creates mess for you, only you have to pay the price. And it’s never a good experience. 

I think friends, family, gf/bf, spouse, do have the right to give their opinion, but they don’t have the right to butt in everywhere. They can’t decide for us & can’t have a say in everything & many a times, they do, & we leave them when we are sick & tired of their suffocating behavior. And it’s not just about relationships, it’s about various other choices we make that are being looked down on for some petty reason. Instead of accepting us the way we are, they just want to change us. Sometimes we just need a bit of moral support & that’s it.

Gone

I like Amanda Seyfried as this woman always acts. It’s another thing they don’t praise her as they praise some over-rated actors. 

I also like this movie. I don’t think you’ll get bored for even a minute if you’re interested in thriller. The plot too is good. Actually everyone believes that Jill Conway is a crazy woman. A year ago, she was kidnapped by a serial killer & she was thrown in a big hole in the forest where she found some human remains. However, she managed to stab him with the bone & get away. But no one believes her story as she had a history of being treated at a psychiatric institution. They all believe what she’s saying has happened in her head. 

Then her elder sister Molly disappears but you won’t believe how bitchy cops have been. They don’t do anything to find Molly but they all presume that Jill is again making up stories. 

It’s also funny how Jill lies when she goes on digging about this man. 

 However, in the end she kills the psycho. All along her sister was under the house. When she wakes up, she was quite pissed off at the policemen who didn’t do anything to help Jill. 

One of the reasons why I’m writing on this movie is that how they don’t believe someone who has a history. They all presume that the person is making up stories just to gain attention. They make sure to create problems for the person. 

In this case, the policemen didn’t care at all. Lots of females went missing, but they just don’t do anything about it. Only Jill is the person who has been investigating about it. The cops inquired about the psycho when everything has been taken care of, & she tells them that he never existed, it was all in her head. It speaks highly about the inefficient attitude of policemen everywhere.

Happy Birthday Maru!

Maru has just turned five year old & his owner has shared some new clips of his pretty baby. No wonder he’s one of the most favourite cats. 

His owner also runs a blog on him & he has said: “My hooman always says that I live a life that everybody envies.” 

Without question Maru lives a better life than many people & animals out there, but we don’t envy him, we simply love him like mad. 

And Maru is indeed a very lucky cat.

Well we wish Maru many more birthdays & lots of happiness. 

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Is Maru the internet's most famous cat? Japanese moggie celebrates fifth birthday with another series of cute video clips

If you are right

“If you are right & I am wrong, then life is not worth living.” 

Henrik Ibsen

One goes along thinking

“One goes along thinking one knows; but one really doesn’t know.” 

Virginia Woolf

Love

“Love may not make the world go round, but I must admit that it makes the ride worthwhile.” 

Sean Connery

Big changes & second chance

“We all have big changes in our lives that are more or less a second chance.” 

Harrison Ford

There are four questions of value

“There are four questions of value in life... What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.” 

Johnny Depp

Carry out a random act of kindness

“Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.” 

Princess Diana

It matters not who you love

“It matters not who you love, where you love, why you love, when you love or how you love, it matters only that you love.” 

John Lennon

The Flowers of War

The Flowers of War is not a new movie, but I saw it yesterday. The film is based on the novel 13 Flowers of Nanjing, by Geling Yan. Moreover it has been inspired by real events that happened at the time of the Second Sino-Japanese War. 

I stay away from war movies for obvious reason. Even if the movie is not graphic, the idea of how people suffer during war is just too much. I once read that every war is waged on the body of woman. And yes it’s very true how soldiers & men become beasts everywhere. 

In this movie, almost everyone who was human make sacrifices to help out others. You will feel sick to your stomach how soldiers tried to rape these school girls in the house of Lord. 2 girls also died during this commotion. Then Colonel even promises to protect the girls by placing guards but he wanted the girls to perform for the officer when the war ends. However Yu Mo & other prostitutes decide to protect the girls by meeting the Japanese on their behalf. 

It’s heart wrenching that people went through so much shit during this war or just about any war. These prostitutes sacrifice their lives to protect the girls. Since they needed 13 girls, the former convent priest's adopted son volunteers to go. 

In the last scene, the truck is seen driving on a deserted highway in Western direction, away from the advancing Japanese army, towards safety. But you can’t help thinking about those 13 good people who made such a huge sacrifice. Your own shadow leaves you in the hour of darkness. 

There is one particular rape scene in which those beasts were raping one after the other a prostitute who just went out with another prostitute to get strings for her instrument, so that she could play music for a dying boy. And they both met such a horrible end. There is also one Chinese soldier who did everything to protect these girls. It was damn impressive how he kills so many soldiers who were trying hard to rape the girls. 

I think after Hachiko, this is another movie that makes one cry along with the actors in the movie. It’s too painful.

Oh and I loved Christian Bale in it! And that prostitute Yu Mo (played by Ni Ni) really had class. 

But I couldn’t help thinking that good people make sacrifices but they get nothing in this world. Selfless people only suffer. Those who make sacrifices for others only suffer. 

Anyhow, it’s a must watch. ‘The flowers of war’ is just the right name for the movie. It raises innumerable questions. It only takes a second & man transforms into a deadly monster. He forgets all values & stoops down so low that it makes one ashamed to admit the ugly fact that we belong to the same specie. They just go on raping women till they die. Humanity is surely dead wherever they commit such crimes. War is not enough. Even after the war, they want to rape & kill some more girls & women.

PS I just want to add that flowers are always beautiful...even flowers of wars. These prostitutes have proved it to the world.  

Stray dog Xiaosa runs 1700 km from China to Tibet

This is such a cute story & beyond any reasonable doubt Xiaosa is an amazing dog. 

I read this story yesterday but owing to some reason, I couldn’t post it on the blog. This stray dog has completed a 1700 km journey. Actually one of the cyclists gave him food & he joined the cyclists. 

He ran with them for 20 days and covered up to 60km a day. He also apparently climbed 10 mountains higher than 4,000 meters during her run. And you could see he is so damn excited & happy in the video. 

Xiaosa doesn’t look like stray to me. I think someone could have abandoned this dog. 

Btw, these cyclists also started a blog about Xiaosa's adventures & it attracted a number of fans. One of the team members most probably will adopt this wonderful creature. I’m not so sure who. As in one of the dailies, they say Xiao Yong will adopt him & in another, it’s Zhang. Moreover, I’m also confused about the gender of dog. Somewhere it is male & somewhere it’s female. Anyhow, many people have shown interest in adopting him. 

There is no confusion about the name though. The nickname is a combination of "xiao" meaning little and the last syllable of Lhasa, where they ended their race. 

 The cyclist named Zhang said: 

"We thought the dog was encouraging us, and wanted others to know its story."

Wang Zi, another cyclist said, "She may be the first dog who ran to Lhasa along this route." 

Moreover Zhang said, "I would like to take the dog home and take care of her. She has been a stray on the road for a long time. She needs a home." 

Some of the comments of internet users are: 

 "Even a stray dog can stick to its dream. Who says a dream is too far to reach?" said one internet user. 

"We like [Xiaosa], envy that he can do what he wants, envy his endless running. Perhaps we need ideals too much," said another. 

Truly many people have been inspired by his adventures. I don’t think you need to envy this dog…you too can follow your dreams. He just tells you that nothing is impossible. 

I’m so touched that one person gave me food & he followed them all the way. Indeed dogs are the most loyal animals. Unlike humans, they never take you for granted.

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Video: Stray dog completes 1700km cycle race in China 

Stray dog completes 1700km China race 

Dogged determination: Stray follows cyclists 2,000km to Tibet

Every day the story takes another turn

Well I shared this passage two or three years ago, but today I couldn’t help thinking about it. Of course I won’t talk about the same things now. Anyhow, here it goes: 

“He (Vronsky) did not know that his behavior toward Kitty had a name of its own, that it was decoying a girl with no intentions of marrying her, & is one of the evil actions common among brilliant young men like himself. He thought he was the first to discover this pleasure & he enjoyed his discovery.” 

Leo Tolstoy 

(Anna Karenina) 

Those who have been through it know that it’s quite a painful experience. Others can only judge a young girl, cause that’s the best they can do. I was just 18 + when it happened to me. I know there are far worse things that happen to both men & women. But after going through that study of men being more attracted towards women who act dumb, I couldn’t help thinking about a couple of things. Yes there is no connection. Actually I live in the present & that’s why I’m scribbling right now. 

I mind my own business. Other than myself, I really don’t have time to think about others. My sister & friends think I’m in love, but I’m not. Yes I haven’t felt this way before, but I don’t think it’s going to be any different this time. In fact the other day my mom gave me a piece of mind for even mentioning it on my blog. You know moms are moms. She was like nothing ever happens & you have to tell everyone how you feel. And then there is one stalker & one smelly character who keep an eye on everything, so my mom just doesn’t approve of it. 

I have already taken all the steps & there is no point to do the same thing again. And I’m not going to change my mind, cause twice I got not just disappointed, but also badly hurt by him besides waiting for months. He gives idiotic hints every now & then. And I know from experience that he’s not making fun of me & it’s not a bet either. But still…when you screw up things, you can’t expect the other person to clean up the mess. Unlike others, I won’t get down on my knees. Moreover, it’s not even the right thing to do. And I don’t want to think about other women. But I’m also human, I can’t help thinking. Kuch log biwi ki tarah behave kartay hain & that makes me wonder why. Honestly, I really don’t want to think about anyone’s history, but in this case, certain women want me to get jealous. My friend says that they have feelings of insecurity & that’s why it’s happening. When I was new in the picture, it was easier for them to fuck up things for me, but now I have been around for quite some time…it’s just that I’m not in the picture anymore. 

And I'm the kind of person who takes 7 or 8 years to have another crush, so this headache is going to last for quite some time. 

A man divorced his wife as she refused to get rid of her cats

I don’t want to sound mean but when I read the title, I couldn’t help laughing. This man has divorced his wife because she didn’t get rid of her 550 cats. The court urged her to reconcile earlier on but she has chosen her cats over her husband. 

1st thing 1st, 550 cats are too many. I don’t know how does she manage to take care of them. Anyhow, it’s evident that cats meant more to this woman than her husband. In a way, I do feel sorry for him. Since there were hundreds of cats in the house, he couldn’t sleep in his own bed. Something could have been done about it. The wife had the option of not allowing cats in the bedroom, but it seems they didn’t want things to work out. Cats were running around all the time & he even had difficulty using the bathroom. Moreover, it was difficult to prepare meals when there are zillions of cats in the kitchen. 

“When he sat to eat, cats jumped onto the table and stole his food,” according to the Times of Israel. 

Honestly, I do feel sorry for him. In this case, the wife didn’t compromise a bit. You don’t have to throw the cats, but you could have made things better by taking few steps. When a person wants to sleep & cats are all over you, it’s damn difficult. Cats not just walk around everywhere, they also have fights, which can be very nasty. A person who is not cat lover cannot adjust to this kind of lifestyle. And then cats also shit & some don’t ever shit in the pot…Oh I feel very sorry for the man. In a way, it’s good they are not together. I’m amazed at animal lovers who love animals like mad but don’t make a single compromise for their loved ones. Very weird! 

Anyhow now I know why no one wants to marry me :P I only have 37 cats & one dog, & honestly speaking, it can drive you nuts at times. Since I don’t believe in animal shelters over here, so I’m content with what I’m doing for these animals right in my home. And my mom is the main reason why I have been able to do something for stray animals & my pets. What I find funny is how people presume that I would take all my cats with me even though I’ve never said anything of the sort to anyone. It’s their home & they are happy over here. Anyhow I’ve also met guys who presume that I give more importance to my pets. I also give importance to my sister & my pals. Had there been anyone special in my life, I might have given him that much importance…maybe a little more. I think it’s ridiculous to compare yourself with someone’s pets. 

Pets are like your kids. In order to form a new relationship, I really do not think you must sever ties with those who have been around for so long unless they are selfish & they don’t want you to be happy with any man or woman. We all happen to know such humans who want us to stay single forever & some of them happen to be so-called friends. But pets are not like humans. They love you unconditionally. They don’t mind if you are not perfect. They don’t leave you when you are down. 

When I read about this particular case, I think it’s better for the man to get out of the picture. And 550 cats are too much for just about anyone. I think 5 cats are more than enough, if you could take care of them properly. However, I think it was also selfish on his part to ask her to get rid of all those cats & it was selfish on the part of the woman who never did anything to make the relationship work. Just imagine he couldn’t sleep well & then he had problem while having meals as cats used to steal food. This can be very annoying for someone who is not a cat lover. 

See I really don’t always side with women. This time I’m with the man even though I’m a cat person & you must give me points for that :P 

I’m totally against abandoning a pet even if he has behavior problem. You must accept the pet with his faults & be nice with him. Some pets can be perfect but not a single person on this planet could be called perfect. We all have faults. But when you’re married to someone, you must need to think about that person also. It’s pure selfishness just to think about your own happiness & what you like to do regardless of how it’s causing headaches to another person. The question arises: why do such people ever bother to marry? 

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An Israeli man has divorced his wife because she refused to get rid of her 550 cats

Aishwarya at Cannes

Lately we all know Aishwarya Rai Bachchan has been criticized for her weight. Nearly everyone believes that 7 months is just too long a time & she should shed weight. Well I think it’s totally her business & all those people who are getting excited about her weight problem may not have lives themselves. 

Anyhow, this is how Aishwarya looked at the AmfAR Cinema Against Aids gala in Cannes. Daily Mail has used the word ‘dazzling’ for her but I’m sorry I don’t agree with them. I can’t even use the word ‘fat’ for her. I think she looks happy, satisfied & yeah a bit too healthy than healthy folks. She’s got cunning but satisfied eyes. And all those who are criticizing her need to know that she really doesn’t give a damn to what you’re thinking. She has a life & a much better life than losers who have posted videos making fun of her. 

 There was a time when Aishwarya looked stunning. In fact in some movies, she looked damn beautiful, but I like Aishwarya cause of her acting. She’s definitely a good, talented actor. However, I don’t think she is the most beautiful woman in this world. And it doesn’t matter what Julia Roberts thinks or how any daily says that she has lived up to the world’s most beautiful title at Cannes. But then newspapers love to call just about anyone dazzling who happens to be a celebrity or related to some big shot. The fact is even genuinely beautiful people don’t look beautiful all the time. 

I think healthy Aishwarya doesn't look all that bad. I don't understand why people have so much issues about her weight. But I think she has a terrible grin...in fact, she's got the worst grin I've ever seen. 

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Dazzling Aishwarya Rai Bachchan lives up to 'world's most beautiful woman' title at Cannes after cruel critics slam baby weight

Aishwarya at Cannes & Pippa at another royal wedding

Lately we all know Aishwarya Rai Bachchan has been criticized for her weight. Nearly everyone believes that 7 months is just too long a time & she should shed weight. Well I think it’s totally her business & all those people who are getting excited about her weight problem may not have lives themselves. 

Anyhow, this is how Aishwarya looked at the AmfAR Cinema Against Aids gala in Cannes. Daily Mail has used the word ‘dazzling’ for her but I’m sorry I don’t agree with them. I can’t even use the word ‘fat’ for her. I think she looks happy, satisfied & yeah a bit too healthy than healthy folks. She’s got cunning but satisfied eyes. And all those who are criticizing her need to know that she really doesn’t give a damn to what you’re thinking. She has a life & a much better life than losers who have posted videos making fun of her. 

There was a time when Aishwarya looked stunning. In fact in some movies, she looked damn beautiful, but I like Aishwarya cause of her acting. She’s definitely a good, talented actor. However, I don’t think she is the most beautiful woman in this world. And it doesn’t matter what Julia Roberts thinks or how any daily says that she has lived up to the world’s most beautiful title at Cannes. 

 But then newspapers love to call just about anyone dazzling who happens to be a celebrity or related to some big shot. The fact is even genuinely beautiful people don’t look beautiful all the time. 

It has been reported that Pippa looked radiant in an orange-red dress, navy accessories and understated gold jewellery. This entire thing is referred to as ‘impeccable taste in wedding outfits.’ 

The foremost question is: My Lord is this what radiant & dazzling all about? :P 

I don’t know anyone who is more over-rated than this woman. Even Kate Middleton is very ordinary but since she’s from a royal family, we put up with shit. No, that’s a lie…we don’t put up with that crap either. But Pippa certainly doesn’t look radiant & also doesn’t have impeccable taste. It’s bad taste. The outfit is just too bad & ugly. What kind of color combination it is? And I don’t know why they even bother to report about her. 

At least Aishwarya is an actress & once upon a time, she was Miss World. She’s got a terrible grin but nevertheless, she looks better than Pippa even now. In fact she's got the worst grin I've ever seen.

I must let you know what one of my friends thinks of Pippa’s awesome pic: 

“She does not look radiant or dazzling...she looks like there is a stick in her bum--LITERALLY, LOOK.” 

And she is right about that :P I know Pippa will hate us for being this bitchy, but we don’t have any choice. 

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Dazzling Aishwarya Rai Bachchan lives up to 'world's most beautiful woman' title at Cannes after cruel critics slam baby weight 

The ultimate wedding guest: Pippa Middleton shows off her impeccable taste at another big day

Men are 'more attracted towards women who act dumb'

It’s pretty hard to ignore something of the sort. Anyhow I’m not amazed to learn that men are pre-programmed to seek out women who act dumb as they make easier conquests, according to this study. They gave higher ratings to immature & unintelligent women. They also ranked these women as more attractive than those who were brainy. Although these studies are not all that authentic but we have seen that men are more comfortable with women who have got low IQ level. Naturally these women say yes to everything & even laugh at all their cheap jokes. 

I have also observed that men prefer to be surrounded by sycophants. Maybe they are not aware of it but deep down they love to be appreciated for everything & by everything, I mean everything. Even if you are crazy after someone, I don’t think it’s possible to like everything & then falsely praise the guy. Don’t you think it’s like the deceiving the person? 

However, they are not interested in pursuing long-term relationships with dumb women. It’s extremely impossible to understand men & what goes in that strange mind. This is really sickening that they don’t mind having fun with immature, unintelligent, dumb women. They even find them attractive while they are having fun, but they don’t want serious relationship with them. 

In fact I read similar kind of study few days ago also that highlighted the same thing that men don’t want to marry such dumb women. There have been numerous studies saying that men do get intimated by brainy & genuinely good-looking women also. I suppose when they are having sex with not so smart women, it’s more about satisfying their desire & need. It’s not love. Anyhow, men never confuse sex with love. Women do & that’s why they get hurt. 

Relationships expert Jean Hannah Edelstein said: "It's not a recipe for a happy relationship to select a partner based on what you perceive to be their inferiority." 

There is another study which says that in order to stay mentally happy, women need girlfriends as they can bitch & talk about anything with them. It helps in their mental health. Hanging out with friends is not wasting time, you are actually helping yourself & you stay healthy. But I was surprised to know that a man needs a woman to make him feel better & his mental health revolves more around one healthy relationship with a woman. 

I think men do get attracted by smart & good-looking women as well, but they are usually scared to talk to them. Those who only get attracted by dumb women must be dumb themselves. 

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Men 'more attracted to women who act dumb'

There’s really nothing new

“There’s really nothing particularly new in these books – nothing more than what most people think & believe already. It’s just that most people either don’t take much account of these things, or won’t admit it.” 

Henrik Ibsen

Sex and love

“Sex & love are like tea & milk. They can be mixed or they can be taken straight. Each has certain distinctive characteristics, but when they are combined they form a unique substance.” 

Joyce Brothers

Main Zindagai Ka Saath Nibhata Chala Gaya – Hum Dono

I heard this song yesterday after a long time & I really liked it when I was a teenager, so I couldn’t get it out of my head. I still like this song & you know I'm a huge fan of Rafi.

I think it’s difficult to follow what he says but if a person does, then maybe you won’t feel pain anymore. It reminds me of the sayings of Buddha actually. Rafi sahab sounds so much like Sonu Nigam in this song. 

Anyhow, I like this attitude & while I was a teenager, I really wanted to follow it but I could never succeed. 

Barbadiyon ka shoog manana fizul tha 

Barbadiyon ka jashan manata chala gaya 

Of course you can act in front of others that you are happy & it doesn’t mean anything & you don’t give a shit & yes I have seen that people do get deceive. But it’s not about people, it’s about you & how you feel. Pretending & acting are two things that don’t help. Even if one succeeds in deceiving, which I have done a number of times, I don’t think it makes one happy or satisfied. It’s just good for a laugh. 

Jo mil gaya usi ko muqaddar samajh liya 

Jo kho gaya mein usko bhulata chala gaya 

I think it’s easier to forget what you have lost. I mean it’s not that easy, but you move on. But I don’t always accept what fate offers me so that has always been a big no, no. I believe jo mil gaya could be also be crap & it’s better to throw it. 

However, I find this extremely difficult to this day. In fact there is a huge question mark as to how one could achieve it. 

Gham aur khushi mein farq na mehsoos ho jahan 

Main dil ko us muqaam pe laata chala gaya 

You have to forget the difference between happiness or sadness & that could only be achieved when you realize that happiness doesn’t mean much. And sadness also leaves you at one point. When nothing seems to have any impact on you, life would be tension free. But is it worth living? You are not being true to your heart. You may escape sadness or whatever that gives headaches or happiness that is so very fleeting & meaningless, but still somewhere you are not being true to yourself. 

I think Dev Anand looks pretty stylish. I don’t know what happened to him later on. He stopped somewhere…God knows in which era. He was very cool guy. I haven’t seen this movie…Can’t say anything about it. But the song is worth pondering over. I wonder if question marks would ever vanish for me.

Main Zindagai Ka Saath Nibhata Chala Gaya – Hum Dono

I heard this song yesterday after a long time & I really liked it when I was a teenager, so I couldn’t get it out of my head. 

I think it’s difficult to follow what he says but if a person does, then maybe you won’t feel pain anymore. It reminds me of the sayings of Buddha actually. Rafi sahab sounds so much like Sonu Nigam in this song.

Anyhow, I like this attitude & while I was a teenager, I really wanted to follow it but I could never succeed. 

Barbadiyon ka shoog manana fizul tha 

Barbadiyon ka jashan manata chala gaya 

Of course you can act in front of others that you are happy & it doesn’t mean anything & you don’t give a shit & yes I have seen that people do get deceive. But it’s not about people, it’s about you & how you feel. Pretending & acting are two things that don’t help. Even if one succeeds in deceiving, which I have done a number of times, I don’t think it makes one happy or satisfied. It’s good for a laugh. 

Jo mil gaya usi ko muqaddar samajh liya 

Jo kho gaya mein usko bhulata chala gaya 

I think it’s easier to forget what you have lost. I mean it’s not that easy, but you move on. But I don’t always accept what fate offers me so that has always been a big no, no. I believe jo mil gaya could be also be crap & it’s better to throw it. 

However, I find this extremely difficult to this day. In fact there is a huge question mark as to how one could achieve it. 

Gham aur khushi mein farq na mehsoos ho jahan 

Main dil ko us muqaam pe laata chala gaya 

You have to forget the difference between happiness or sadness & that could only be achieved when you realize that happiness doesn’t mean much. And sadness also leaves you at one point. When nothing seems to have any impact on you, life would be tension free. But is it worth living? You are not being true to your heart. You may escape sadness or whatever that gives headaches or happiness that is so very fleeting & meaningless, but still somewhere you are not being true to yourself. 

I think Dev Anand looks pretty stylish. I don’t know what happened to him later on. He stopped somewhere…God knows in which era. He was very cool guy. I haven’t seen this movie…Can’t say anything about it. But the song is worth pondering over. I wonder if question marks would ever vanish for me.

Shafilea Ahmed's murder

I have been reading about this case for quite some time. This is not the 1st time we have heard that parents have killed their own child. 

Shafilea Ahmed was killed by her own parents in 2003. After five months, her body was found dumped beside a river in Cumbria. Everyone knew she was missing. At one point, she even swallowed bleach. 

Now the reason they murdered their 17 year old is based on so-called honor & shit. The thing is these people go abroad but they want their kids to follow culture, traditions & strange concepts of shame & honor in England & America. Any kid who has been raised in that kind of atmosphere will like to wear the same clothes as other kids are wearing. This Westernized lifestyle is just too much for the parents. Shafilea too wanted to wear T-shirts & jeans, & just like girls of her age, she wanted to have boyfriends. 

Farzana Ahmed and Iftikhar Ahmed murdered their daughter in front of their other four children. However, they both deny it. 

Alesha Ahmed who was 15 had that time has broken her silence as she herself felt haunted by what she saw seven years ago. Actually she blurted out the truth to detectives in 2010 as she was caught for planning a robbery along with a gang. 

She told the jury at Chester Crown Court: "I think I had just had enough. My state of mind was not very good at the time. I was living between two cultures and trying to please everyone. It was not me anymore and I was doing things which were out of character - like turning to drink at university. I was not being myself anymore and I just let it out. What happened to my sister had haunted me for a long time.” 

She went on: “It was when I went to university that I saw how wrong our family life was. When you get used to something, it becomes normal. When it’s your own parents you don’t see things like that because you still love them. At university I think I felt like my sister. I wanted to fit in with everyone else but I was being forced to live in a different way and that is what made me crack. There is constant pressure to fit in with the rest of people but you just can't." 

We have read such stories a number of times in which daughters are being forced to marry someone or they are being killed in the name of so-called honor. What I fail to understand is that why such families even bother to move abroad when they have such closed minds? How can you possibly expect a child to adjust in that kind of atmosphere? 

Unfortunately, this is not the 1st case & won’t be the last. Everything happens everywhere. Parents must be living on another planet if they think we have virgins over here. And you can count those on your finger tips who don’t indulge in such activities for whatever reason. One doesn’t have to be from a conservative family to be like this. It’s a choice that very few people make & you can’t expect every Muslim to make that choice & have control over his/her desires. No matter how pious you are, it’s not possible to produce kids having so much control over themselves. Upbringing is not the main reason, it’s more or less the nature of the person. I think having desires is something very natural. It’s more like having food for most men & women. I also don’t think parents are all that naïve but yeah they forget what they did in their youth. 

When you move your ass to another country, it’s better to leave your culture here. Or stay in some village. And even if you want to stick to your culture & tradition, you can’t thrust it on your children who are raised in foreign land. 

Anyhow, it’s no use writing on such things. People would never change. I totally agree with SRK who once said that there is no one as open minded as an educated Muslim. No one ever talks about such Muslims though. Even the West doesn’t talk about them for obvious reason, cause they happen to have the kind of minds that even they can’t handle. 

Every time I read such crazy stories in which parents kill their own children or lock them up in rooms, I feel that I'm being very lucky to have such cool parents, but unfortunately one of my parents is dead. And yeah I often wonder why does a good parent have to die & such wicked parents live to torment their own kids. I also wonder how do kids talk to such parents...I find all that very suffocating, cause I say whatever I want to say to my mom without even thinking. Anyway, this world has all sorts of people & some parents think children owe everything to them. They don't even have the right to breathe. 

Source: 

Shafilea Ahmed's mother pushed daughter on sofa and ordered husband to 'finish it now' court hears 

Shafilea Ahmed murder: sister 'haunted' by what she had seen