Unlike others, I just don’t believe in criticizing a person for the heck of it. I try to look at every case with an open mind. Those who have been reading me know that I have changed my mind a couple of times & I’m not ashamed of it. After all, I’m human & thank God I don’t have rigid views.
Jamie Lynne Grumet happens to be one of those cases. This morning, she appeared on the breakfast programme Today. Now it’s obvious she too is into it for publicity. Although she’s not Samantha Brick or Sarah Barge, but she belongs to the same category.
We don’t care if she will not stop breastfeeding her almost-four-year-old son Aram until he turns five. In fact we don’t want to know it but here it goes:
“I'm hoping our fourth year is probably going to be our final.”
“I understand some of the breastfeeding advocates are actually upset about this,” she said.
Since everyone loves to fix the blame, she too has attributed this outrage to the cover photo. How convenient! She believes that was just a one-sided portrayal of attachment parenting. I don’t think it’s right to fix the blame on the photographer or the editor of the magazine. This was a different case & that’s what the cover is all about. She didn’t have that maternal instinct. She agreed to pose in that manner. Nobody could have forced her to prove a point to the world.
“This isn't how we breastfeed at home,” she said in regards to the photograph, which captures the child standing on a small chair in order to take hold of her breast in his mouth.
"It's more of a cradling, nurturing situation [at home]. I understand what they're [the advocates] saying,” she said.
Now I’m going to say what I couldn’t say in my other two blog posts. In my other write-up, I have mentioned that one has memory of things that happened while we were three or four...It’s not that vivid but we can recall things in bits & pieces. And yes Aram may not like it when he would see the cover photo after many years. You can write it down. I also think we need to go beyond the photo. When we read such things, we somehow have this disgusting feeling...we don't want to think that way about our moms. There are certain things which I couldn't say even in my 2nd write-up on her. I just can't...but now I'm utterly disgusted as she doesn't give up. And this is all about cheap publicity.
Is this love all about? What kind of people have children? I’m really disturbed. How she has posed on the cover will have serious effect on the lives of her sons later on. Maybe the adopted son won't be bothered but the biological one will have severe problems. You know how people make fun of such things. These kids won't be spared, cause of this publicity stunt.
As I said, we all can recall a bit about our childhood & these 2 boys are old enough to remember more than enough. I don't think the mother is deriving any sexual pleasure but the kids will look at it in another way. Who knows maybe they look at other women & think about their boobs...it may sound funny but you never know.
Just go back in time & think when we are five year old…we had dirty thoughts even at that time. In fact I was three year old, & my brother & I got hold of this porno magazine…we were utterly shocked. Since I have a habit of thinking & that started too early…I raised a question in my mind, which I can’t tell you all but I told one of my friends & she said that she wouldn’t believe it but if I’m telling her, then yes a child could raise that kind of a question even at the age of three but she was adamant…had it been someone else, she wouldn’t believe it. By the time I was five, I didn’t miss any opportunity of noticing stuff that I’m sure other children also notice but they won’t ever admit it. The point is that her two kids must be noticing far more than what I did at the age of five for obvious reason.
I don’t want to miss this part:
Ms Grumet said that while she bares close bonds with her two children, her relationship with her husband is just as important.
“I don't feel like it takes away from my own personal life, my relationship with my husband is very, very important to me,” she said.
Now I may sound kinky but who knows maybe the husband is the 3rd child. You get all sorts of ideas when you read such stories.
Moreover Dr William Sears who also appeared on the show said:
“If you were on an island and had no doctors, no experts... this is what you would do naturally. I've never yet seen an attachment parented baby who's become a school bully.”
What is this crap that such kids never become school bullies? There are certain moms who can’t feed their babies owing to complications. They want to, but they can’t. And those kids don’t turn out to be school bullies.
I really didn’t want to attach sexual meaning to that picture, but sexual angle will affect the lives of her two kids. Maybe not predominately but it will have repercussions.
I’m really tired of typing & even thinking about this bizarre case. I’m sorry to say but this special kind of attachment parenting doesn’t show such positive, fruitful, loving results. Both the kids have got such forced & fake grin. And that Samuel doesn’t even look that innocent.
