Cyber-bullying is a serious crime

Time & again I’ve said this on my blog. I myself have been a victim too & it has been 7 years. 

When this thing started at orkut, I was really upset & believe me, it was pure torture. Zillions of fake profiles were created at orkut, FB, twitter & various other places. And it’s not an exaggeration. I did complain but nothing was ever done. Naturally it wasn’t possible for them to take action against every profile. Orkut gave me few tips but FB was totally useless. The only good thing about FB is that you may not allow everyone to message you. I never bothered to complain at twitter & I don’t even use it anymore.

These bullies only want to make you feel miserable. They find faults in you & then they go on jeering at you. I have been called terminally single & a crazy animal lover. I don’t even remember most of the things. I used to get such abusive messages & I just couldn’t understand as to why this person hates me so much. 

Anyhow, 7 years is a pretty long time. I don’t know how but God gave me the courage to face this madness. Once my friend even suggested that I must talk to this person but I was like why should I talk to him. I have never dated him. I have never even met him once in my life. I’ve never had cyber sex with him. I’m not into sexting & other such things. I haven’t done anything to be ashamed of.

However, it wasn’t easy for me to face it, but I did. Now & then I get to know this person is creating one problem or the other. In fact it's funny when my sister says every six month that this stalker & another smelly character are two people who read each & every post I scribble.

The point is that…my case is different but that of Tyler & others is not. When someone posts a video in which you are having sex, naturally you will go off your head. I remember a man made more than 30 blogs on a woman he dated just for 2 months. It’s obvious this kind of person is sick in the head.

And emotional abuse is the worst form of abuse. It’s inevitable not to think about such mean, negative, nasty stuff that non-existent creatures say in your honor. Cyber-bullying can cause a person to commit suicide. Negative statements & how people hate you without any reason can have a bad effect.

Even if you have done something that you are not proud of, please do not let a bully decide things for you. In life, we come across all sorts of bullies. Some people just can’t see another being happy. Feeling of insecurity & jealousy often make them behave in this manner. They want others to get hurt. Never let anyone decide things for you...NEVER...cause you are only answerable to God, not to these people. It's up to you...it's never up to them.

Rutgers suicide

I read this story yesterday & I’m really pissed off that Dharun Ravi has been jailed for just 30 days. This guy secretly made a film of his gay room-mate while he was having sex with another man in his dormitory at Rutgers University in New Jersey. 

Ravi also posted mocking comments about this entire episode on twitter. After three days, Tyler Clementi killed himself by jumping from the George Washington Bridge. Although Ravi even deleted those tweets later on, but the damage was done. The thing is…why did Ravi delete those comments when he was not guilty? 

What Ravi did was a hate crime. I don’t think there’s any other word for it. What was his problem? Even if his room-mate was gay, he could have asked to change the room but he went ahead & made this cheap film & later on bullied the guy. You can imagine it must be pure torture to have the kind of room-mate who has issues with whom you’re sleeping with. He must have said such mean things to Tyler while he was alive. He deleted the tweet & so there is no evidence. 

I believe this punishment for 30 days is too lenient. Ravi may not have pushed Clementi but he triggered a chain of reactions. Posting such nasty stuff online can have a devastating effect on the victim. Yes he cannot be directly blamed for the suicide, but he had no right to play havoc with someone’s life. 

James Clementi blamed Ravi's bullying for his brother's death saying: "He walked into a viper's nest ... with Dharun Ravi as his room-mate, my brother never stood a chance." 

Jane Clementi, the victim's mother, did not refer to Ravi by name during her statement referring to him as "the room-mate" and "the defendant". 

She called him "cold and vicious ... malicious and evil". 

Although Ravi’s father is saying that he has not been raised to hate gays, but what was the meaning of making that kind of video & bullying a person online. Surely something was wrong somewhere. Maybe he doesn’t know his son that well. Parents of culprits & criminals always say their kids are innocent & if everyone is innocent, how come we have such a maddening world where people have issues with someone else's private life & personal choices?

Cyber-bullying is a serious crime & I don’t think 30 days is enough to teach this guy any lesson. He might have done all this in fun, but another person committed suicide. 

I’m not saying he ought to be tried for murder, but he must be given a harsh punishment for invading someone’s privacy & then harassing him online. 

I’m also amazed at people who are sympathizing with Ravi. Would they ask the judge to be more lenient with the one who instigated the horrible chain of events if their own kid commits suicide? I don't think so. And I don't even think is a scapegoat. He needs to be punished for mentally abusing, harassing, & bullying a person while he was alive.

A guy made a sex video & then posted lots of crap about him on tweeter. That in itself is enough to drive anyone crazy. Besides others too must be teasing.

Source: 

Rutgers suicide: man who filmed gay room-mate sentenced to 30 days

Laura Goodger’s weight problem has been aggravated due to cyber-bullying

This is not the first time Laura Goodger is talking about her weight problem.

The reality TV star said recently in an interview: “I hate the way I look.”

She added: “I've tried boot camp, had a personal trainer and a nutritionist. But I just start eating again. I have a problem.”

She’s upset most of the time about her weight & she really wants to reduce it but ever since her break up with her boyfriend, she has been eating like anything. What’s saddening is that people neither spare her in real life nor do they leave her in peace on twitter. Actually it’s not just her love of food that forces her to eat like a pig. It’s this constant abuse on twitter that causes her to eat even more.

“There are some really unkind bullies out there. They don’t even know me. Who do they think they are? They call me a beached whale and a fat c***. They also call me Miss Piggy.”

This is indeed a serious problem & I think Laura needs to see a shrink. I myself have been a victim of cyber-bully. It’s been 7 years now & I can ignore it as it has been so long. Every now & then my accounts get hacked &innumerable fake profiles have been created to make me feel bad. I still get tweets of weird nature. Actually it’s the deep-rooted insecurities of bullies that force them to say nasty & mean things to others. I have been bullied on twitter, Facebook, & Orkut quite religiously in these 7 years. The rule to deal with them is simple: Just don’t let that crap cross your brain cells. And I’m telling you, it works. It has worked for me. My sister says that we have been rigorously trained & that has made us much more stronger individuals. You always gain something out of a bad happening. It’s just that people don’t realize it & they just keep on complaining about bad events & tragedies.

I agree that cyber-bullying or bullying of any other kind has a negative impact on the victim. More importantly, the victim can commit suicide, cause sometimes it’s very difficult to take such things when you are down & out. Although twitter is a great site but just about anyone can tweet you & that can be a problem for someone like Laura Goodger who is upset. I believe when you can say, ‘it’s all on me,’ you can surely work it out.

I believe a person has the will to do what he/she wants to do. Fixing the blame on bullies will not help anyone. We need to ignore certain things & certain people in life. Now we can’t say virtual life has nothing to do with real life. It has, cause it has become a reality. We cannot live without going on the net. This is also a choice. When we make this kind of choice, then we should learn to ignore shitty stuff as well.

Laura Goodger also has the option of deleting her twitter account. Allowing bullies to rule over your life is not right. I’d rather like to waste my time on someone who is important to me than on a coward who is actually non-existent. His/her words only become alive when we allow them. We have that choice.