Now I’m not the kind of optimist that I used to be but I still don’t believe in so much negativity. I can’t see badness in everything. Being a pessimist also has its advantages though. Anyway, what I find more saddening is when I see people who do not approve of themselves & believe they are not worthy of love & affection.
Demi Moore recently revealed in her interview: "I would say what scares me is that I'm going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I'm really not lovable, that I'm not worthy of being loved. That there's something fundamentally wrong with me."
Someone cheats on you & you reach the conclusion that there’s something fundamentally wrong with you & you’re really not lovable. What’s obvious is that she must have had self-doubt about herself before this episode. But such statements only indicate having low self-esteem.
Jean-Paul Sartre aptly said:
“Haven’t people got enough unhappiness as it is, without deliberately going out of their way to find more?”
I also know people who find faults with themselves when someone gives them a ditch or rejects them. Failures, rejections, betrayals & disappointments are bad experiences but certainly not roadblocks. I know it hurts. I have been through it myself. But that doesn’t mean one should start criticizing himself as someone was not interested in him for whatever reason. It’s weird that every time people want to fix the blame on someone. If they don’t lay the blame on others, they blame themselves for the loss.
Moreover, there are also people who just curse the other person when things don’t go well. For instance, Deepika went out of her way to bitch about Ranbir Kapoor on Coffee with Karan. She was her ex-girlfriend but suddenly Ranbir Kapoor had no sex appeal & she wanted to send him a pack of condoms. It didn’t say much about Ranbir except that he might have been a reckless lover, but it did say a lot about Deepika. She was only highlighting his faults all along in that interview. Before I forget, let me mention about the stupid tweets of Liz Hurley. I guess she just wanted some sympathy or perhaps tweeting helped her some way to stay calm during her breakup & patch up. And Courtney Cox surprised us all by telling us that her ex-husband wanted to have sex at odd hours. She could have kept this not so sexy detail to herself. No one was remotely interested. On various threads, people were just making fun of her.
We have all sorts of people in this world. Everyone deals with suffering in different ways. But I think taking it out on yourself is not right. Before you love someone else, you must love yourself. And when people give negative statements about themselves, it only proves one thing – they don’t hold a very high opinion about themselves. They have had doubts & it shows when they are being let down by their loved ones.
Demi Moore got married 3 times. There are people who don’t even get married once. Some don’t find anyone & some are being used & discarded by so many people but still no one thinks about marrying them. When you think about just yourself, perhaps the picture seems all the more bleak. You are the only one who has suffered. Everyone is fighting a battle. Everyone has troubles. If you look around, you may see that your situation, after all, is not all that bad.
I’ve got health problems & ever since the age of 15, I know I can never have a normal life, now should I start blaming myself for it? I don’t. Why should I? I also don’t pity myself. The views of people are never that important to me. And yes some people have issues with me that I think very highly about myself. Which is why I’m amazed to see people who have been so harsh on themselves & find themselves unworthy of love.
My last crush was the most unexpected thing but as usual it was hopeless & lousy like my other 4 crushes. All the while I never got one call from him nor did he ever say one nice thing to me. He knew about my feelings though. Now should I blame myself for being so uncool? Or should I curse him? It was my fault. I couldn’t see things clearly. Stupid hints are stupid hints; they never mean anything. Now I can’t tell myself after this episode that I don’t deserve love & I’m unworthy of it. I actually don’t ever have time to think about such negative stuff. Moreover, I also don’t have bad feelings about this guy. Both of us have been idiots & too old. And I believe it’s entirely his loss.
Time is capable of telling us as to who’s worthy & who’s not. Time is the only thing capable of finding out how great love is. One must cherish if he/she is capable of loving. Receiving back love is equally cool but everyone is not that lucky, but doesn’t mean your feelings are wasted. A heart that can feel is in itself the best thing that can happen to a person.
“In the end, these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you love? How deeply did you learn to let go?”
Siddhartha Gautama Buddha
Self-criticizing can only make you plunge deeper & deeper into the abyss of depression. We always have a choice. We choose to be harsh on ourselves. In the same way, we can choose to be nice to ourselves even when we are in the middle of a storm. Cursing & bitching never help, but to let go of that person who has been the cause of your headache & to forgive him might help. But before all this, you need to forgive yourself. We don’t do that & that’s why we judge ourselves badly for making bad judgments in life.
“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.”
Siddhartha Gautama Buddha
Stay strong! And be nice to yourself. Who knows finding the love of your life might even be a terrible experience :P And please don’t judge yourself, cause someone has been an asshole or no one has noticed you or no one knows your worth or no one wants to give you the love & affection you have always wanted.
The other day I read:
“Being dumped, taken for granted & hurt by someone they love is the reason why many people choose to be single.”
At least this is a smart choice rather than painting yourself as an emotional wreck or blaming yourself for everything that wasn’t in your control right from the beginning.
Demi Moore recently revealed in her interview: "I would say what scares me is that I'm going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I'm really not lovable, that I'm not worthy of being loved. That there's something fundamentally wrong with me."
Someone cheats on you & you reach the conclusion that there’s something fundamentally wrong with you & you’re really not lovable. What’s obvious is that she must have had self-doubt about herself before this episode. But such statements only indicate having low self-esteem.
Jean-Paul Sartre aptly said:
“Haven’t people got enough unhappiness as it is, without deliberately going out of their way to find more?”
I also know people who find faults with themselves when someone gives them a ditch or rejects them. Failures, rejections, betrayals & disappointments are bad experiences but certainly not roadblocks. I know it hurts. I have been through it myself. But that doesn’t mean one should start criticizing himself as someone was not interested in him for whatever reason. It’s weird that every time people want to fix the blame on someone. If they don’t lay the blame on others, they blame themselves for the loss.
Moreover, there are also people who just curse the other person when things don’t go well. For instance, Deepika went out of her way to bitch about Ranbir Kapoor on Coffee with Karan. She was her ex-girlfriend but suddenly Ranbir Kapoor had no sex appeal & she wanted to send him a pack of condoms. It didn’t say much about Ranbir except that he might have been a reckless lover, but it did say a lot about Deepika. She was only highlighting his faults all along in that interview. Before I forget, let me mention about the stupid tweets of Liz Hurley. I guess she just wanted some sympathy or perhaps tweeting helped her some way to stay calm during her breakup & patch up. And Courtney Cox surprised us all by telling us that her ex-husband wanted to have sex at odd hours. She could have kept this not so sexy detail to herself. No one was remotely interested. On various threads, people were just making fun of her.
We have all sorts of people in this world. Everyone deals with suffering in different ways. But I think taking it out on yourself is not right. Before you love someone else, you must love yourself. And when people give negative statements about themselves, it only proves one thing – they don’t hold a very high opinion about themselves. They have had doubts & it shows when they are being let down by their loved ones.
Demi Moore got married 3 times. There are people who don’t even get married once. Some don’t find anyone & some are being used & discarded by so many people but still no one thinks about marrying them. When you think about just yourself, perhaps the picture seems all the more bleak. You are the only one who has suffered. Everyone is fighting a battle. Everyone has troubles. If you look around, you may see that your situation, after all, is not all that bad.
I’ve got health problems & ever since the age of 15, I know I can never have a normal life, now should I start blaming myself for it? I don’t. Why should I? I also don’t pity myself. The views of people are never that important to me. And yes some people have issues with me that I think very highly about myself. Which is why I’m amazed to see people who have been so harsh on themselves & find themselves unworthy of love.
My last crush was the most unexpected thing but as usual it was hopeless & lousy like my other 4 crushes. All the while I never got one call from him nor did he ever say one nice thing to me. He knew about my feelings though. Now should I blame myself for being so uncool? Or should I curse him? It was my fault. I couldn’t see things clearly. Stupid hints are stupid hints; they never mean anything. Now I can’t tell myself after this episode that I don’t deserve love & I’m unworthy of it. I actually don’t ever have time to think about such negative stuff. Moreover, I also don’t have bad feelings about this guy. Both of us have been idiots & too old. And I believe it’s entirely his loss.
Time is capable of telling us as to who’s worthy & who’s not. Time is the only thing capable of finding out how great love is. One must cherish if he/she is capable of loving. Receiving back love is equally cool but everyone is not that lucky, but doesn’t mean your feelings are wasted. A heart that can feel is in itself the best thing that can happen to a person.
“In the end, these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you love? How deeply did you learn to let go?”
Siddhartha Gautama Buddha
Self-criticizing can only make you plunge deeper & deeper into the abyss of depression. We always have a choice. We choose to be harsh on ourselves. In the same way, we can choose to be nice to ourselves even when we are in the middle of a storm. Cursing & bitching never help, but to let go of that person who has been the cause of your headache & to forgive him might help. But before all this, you need to forgive yourself. We don’t do that & that’s why we judge ourselves badly for making bad judgments in life.
“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.”
Siddhartha Gautama Buddha
Stay strong! And be nice to yourself. Who knows finding the love of your life might even be a terrible experience :P And please don’t judge yourself, cause someone has been an asshole or no one has noticed you or no one knows your worth or no one wants to give you the love & affection you have always wanted.
The other day I read:
“Being dumped, taken for granted & hurt by someone they love is the reason why many people choose to be single.”
At least this is a smart choice rather than painting yourself as an emotional wreck or blaming yourself for everything that wasn’t in your control right from the beginning.
