Studies have proved that German philosopher Nietzsche was right about adversity making you a much stronger individual.
“What does not destroy me makes me strong” is not bull shit. There is a lot of truth in it. But yeah if you have been through too much, then the case is different. Certain calamities & traumas actually have a far deeper impact on the person. Some people come out okay. Some people become bitter & they go on cursing forever. I believe the level of developing resilience varies from person to person. Some people bounce back after a tragedy but some never get over it. They stay miserable & sad.
There have been scientific studies that indicate that people who have experienced tremendous amount of adversity are more distressed & unhappy whereas those who haven’t had such bad experiences are not any different; they have the same psychological problems. However, people who have faced some negative experiences in life are the ones who seem to cope pretty well.
Dr Mark Seery said, “The idea is that negative life experiences can toughen people, making them better able to manage subsequent difficulties. I really look at this as being a silver lining. Just because something bad has happened to someone doesn’t mean they’re doomed to be damaged from that point on.”
The fact is that you don’t become strong just like that. Suffering gives birth to strength. I guess there’s no other way. If only nice things happen to you, then either you’re lucky or someone is protecting you from all the bull shit.
I’ve met people who have suffered a lot, but their approach towards life is one in which they don’t care anymore. It’s like if you have lost everything, you don’t give a damn & somehow they have become very courageous & they have a very cool attitude. At the same time, I also know people who just curse others for everything that happened. I’m not saying they haven’t suffered but they prefer to stay miserable & they have this negative energy that even you don’t want to hang out with them.
Anything can hurt. Anything can break you. But when you bounce back, you come back with some strength that was not there earlier on. It’s not that we don’t have a breaking point. We all do. Many a times, we even come out as better people, cause tragedies certainly give you a chance in life to be more human. You do things that you wouldn’t have done, if you were sailing on smooth seas.
Someone very rightly said: “Pain nourishes courage, you can’t be brave if you have only had wonderful things happen to you.”
I can’t say I’m thankful for all the fucking bad things that happened but all of that was essential for growth. Honestly speaking, I wouldn’t have done much for animals & humans, if everything had been normal. I believe I wouldn’t have time for it.I might not have noticed anything at all or wouldn't have felt any compassion.
When you plunge into depression & face shitty stuff in life, you also get to understand the suffering of others to some extent. No one can totally understand the pain of others. That much I know. You have to taste misery to know what exactly is happiness. Many a times, people confuse pleasure with happiness. There’s a hell of a difference.
Most of all, we don’t give forgive ourselves for making blunders. That’s where we are wrong. And you also require strength to forgive others. Satisfying your ego does not always help.
Also check out the article on this study:
“What does not destroy me makes me strong” is not bull shit. There is a lot of truth in it. But yeah if you have been through too much, then the case is different. Certain calamities & traumas actually have a far deeper impact on the person. Some people come out okay. Some people become bitter & they go on cursing forever. I believe the level of developing resilience varies from person to person. Some people bounce back after a tragedy but some never get over it. They stay miserable & sad.
There have been scientific studies that indicate that people who have experienced tremendous amount of adversity are more distressed & unhappy whereas those who haven’t had such bad experiences are not any different; they have the same psychological problems. However, people who have faced some negative experiences in life are the ones who seem to cope pretty well.
Dr Mark Seery said, “The idea is that negative life experiences can toughen people, making them better able to manage subsequent difficulties. I really look at this as being a silver lining. Just because something bad has happened to someone doesn’t mean they’re doomed to be damaged from that point on.”
The fact is that you don’t become strong just like that. Suffering gives birth to strength. I guess there’s no other way. If only nice things happen to you, then either you’re lucky or someone is protecting you from all the bull shit.
I’ve met people who have suffered a lot, but their approach towards life is one in which they don’t care anymore. It’s like if you have lost everything, you don’t give a damn & somehow they have become very courageous & they have a very cool attitude. At the same time, I also know people who just curse others for everything that happened. I’m not saying they haven’t suffered but they prefer to stay miserable & they have this negative energy that even you don’t want to hang out with them.
Anything can hurt. Anything can break you. But when you bounce back, you come back with some strength that was not there earlier on. It’s not that we don’t have a breaking point. We all do. Many a times, we even come out as better people, cause tragedies certainly give you a chance in life to be more human. You do things that you wouldn’t have done, if you were sailing on smooth seas.
Someone very rightly said: “Pain nourishes courage, you can’t be brave if you have only had wonderful things happen to you.”
I can’t say I’m thankful for all the fucking bad things that happened but all of that was essential for growth. Honestly speaking, I wouldn’t have done much for animals & humans, if everything had been normal. I believe I wouldn’t have time for it.I might not have noticed anything at all or wouldn't have felt any compassion.
When you plunge into depression & face shitty stuff in life, you also get to understand the suffering of others to some extent. No one can totally understand the pain of others. That much I know. You have to taste misery to know what exactly is happiness. Many a times, people confuse pleasure with happiness. There’s a hell of a difference.
Most of all, we don’t give forgive ourselves for making blunders. That’s where we are wrong. And you also require strength to forgive others. Satisfying your ego does not always help.
Also check out the article on this study:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/8964844/Nietzsche-was-right-adversity-makes-you-stronger.html
