Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Silence may not cause a memory to fade


It’s a very, very interesting study. You must take out the time & go through the original source.

"There's this idea, with silence, that if we don't talk about something, it starts fading," says Charles B. Stone, an author of a new paper published in Perspectives on Psychological Science.

Although this perspective has been widely accepted, researchers question this view saying that the belief is not supported by empirical psychological research - a lot of it comes from a Freudian belief that everyone has deep-seated issues that are repressed and need to be talked about.

The real relationship between silence and memory is much more complicated, Stone said.

"We are trying to understand how people remember the past in a very basic way," he said. "Silence is everywhere."

One well-studied example used by Stone and his colleagues to demonstrate how subtle the effects of silence can be, establishes that silences about the past occurring within a conversation do not uniformly promote forgetting.

In summary, the relationship between silence and memory is complex.

"Silence has important implications for how we remember the past beyond just forgetting," Stone said. "In terms of memory, not all silence is equal."

My personal experience is that when we talk about a traumatic incident or any other bad happening, it helps us to heal. It may take time, but eventually you get over it. You don't actually forget it but you don't get those headaches that might explode your brain. Talking always helps. Staying mum can hardly ever help, if you want to forget a bad memory or some tragic incident of your life. But a time comes in life, when we stop talking about unpleasant happenings…not because we want to forget, but it seems such a burden to narrate a shitty story. It happens with me. I don’t even talk about a thing that makes me happy with my best people now. Anyway, I have been very expressive all my life, so if I’m being troubled by any specific event, I can still talk about it.

But suffering all alone in silence is the worst thing you do to yourself. You can go to a shrink if you don’t want to trust people around you. But talk…get that thing which is bothering you out of your system, you are sure to feel better.

See I even scribble all those crappy stories that have nothing to do with my life but I write about them, cause they somehow bother me. I keep thinking about them & I just don’t like it, so I vomit all the trash on my sister’s blog :P

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Silence may not cause a memory to fade